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Perfectionism

"Comparison is the thief of joy". – T. Roosevelt

Perfectionism is sometimes revered, but is a mindset that can wreak havoc on our confidence and self-worth.

When we are faced with change or uncertainty, fear can often arise, leading us to doubt ourselves and our abilities. This was the case for me this week, as I decided to stop personal training, which had been my main source of income.

The fear and doubt that followed led me to meet a character that we all probably know too well: Perfect Paul, or someone like him. Perfect Paul is someone who embodies perfectionism - he never makes mistakes, has impeccable standards, and is always popular among the masses. This version of Paul never get's ruffled, anxious or doubtful. Next to him, it's easy to feel like an utter misfit and failure.

But the truth is, Perfect Paul doesn't exist - not in my world, your world, or any other world.


Perfection itself is an imagined standard that we put on ourselves, and it can be damaging to our mental health and wellbeing.

When we stop comparing ourselves to this illusion and begin to accept ourselves as we are then we land, in this moment, with genuine sense of happiness and contentment.

We can still aim for greatness or set high standards as a target, but we can be kind and compassionate to ourselves when things don't go as planned, and learn to love ourselves in spite of our imperfections.

We rarely expect from our nearest and dearest the exacting standards we place on ourselves.

We love them without question.

So if comparison is the thief of joy, then perfectionism is the antidote to happiness.

Let’s bring some kindness and compassion to this ever changing landscape of what it's like to be human.



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